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Marriage starts with work


There is a quote that I have come to love. It was shared by the President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. It really gives me clarity on what I should expect marriage is going to be like. It is going to take effort and practice, in order to adjust to my spouse and establish a marital system that works best for our family. But in the end, the hard work will be all worth it. It is a team effort to establish something strong and powerful.

“Meanwhile, mortal misunderstandings can make mischief in a marriage. In fact, each marriage starts with two built-in handicaps. It involves two imperfect people. Happiness can come to them only through their earnest effort. Just as harmony comes from an orchestra only when its members make a concerted effort, so harmony in marriage also requires a concerted effort. That effort will succeed if each partner will minimize personal demands and maximize actions of loving selflessness.”

Russell M. Nelson, “Celestial Marriage,” Liahona, Nov. 2008.


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