This week we only had one class because of Thanksgiving break but I really enjoyed what we learned in that one class period. We talked about the importance that communication has in a relationship, but it is also important to know HOW to communicate effectively in any relationship. Roughly, about 85% of the time, in therapy, when couples are asked what is their main problem within their marriage, they say it is Communication. And usually when there are disagreements, if it is not approached well, then both spouses get defensive and try to defend what is right to each one of them, instead of trying to fix the problem as a whole. In class our professor gave us the “5 secrets of effective communication” that are found in the book Feeling Good Together , by David Burns M.D. And these 5 secrets are the 5 things that most people don’t do and if we learn these steps, we have to be willing to practice these skills and seek understanding in every situation. Here are the 5 secrets ...